The art of losing

It’s been my very first time post in this beginning of 2012. Some people might write about some positively optimistic things on their blog to start a year, yet I choose to write this kind of maybe a sorrow post just to devote what I’ve been feeling right now. I believe that all people in this world had ever feel like losing something, losing one word could be related to many things . It could be something you can feel with your body or something that you can just only feel in your heart or it can be both in the same time. You may cause part of empty room in your daily life when you lose a thing, day after you start to miss that lost thing. Now, I wanna talk about losing something that might be caused kind of deep sense of loss in your whole daily life, that is losing someone that you love.

What do you know about loss? Some people maybe could yelled at my face about this. I don’t know much about losing, I don’t want to act like an expert of this probs. But based on my own experienced I had some stories about losing someone that I love, because of death or because of many reasonable or unreasonable things. That what I said at first, losing might cause you made some empty room in your heart, what is if it’s about someone that you loved the most?. It’s painful because the time you have to lose someone oftenly comes in unprediction, it suddenly strike you like heartless when you feels like everything was just going right and beautiful. We might be speechless, but it is happened, at that time for some people they might think that they’re the most miserable person in this world, some part of their life just gone, and we have no idea how to pass the next day without that missing piece of our heart. For some people could made stubborn decision, how to erased all memories we had about this missing piece and how to replaced that missing piece with new one, not an easy work indeed.

No limit about sense of loss, man or woman they’re just the same in the art of losing. Maybe they cried because they loss people they loved. It’s like not that easy to move on, to wake up from sense of depression. That another phase, depression some people thing that was exaggerate word, but that could be one word that decent to a loss heart, broken-hearted. Another day we will pass will be different without them, there’s some routinity that we stop doing, and we will disconnect to some other people that closed to our beloved person. Here comes we start new routine with mad head and fragile heart. First day you think your life just stop, another day you think you can move on and said that life goes on, next day maybe you start depression again, and it will be repeated until the time you can’t notice. Many question goes round in our head, how could this happened? Who’s wrong? . or maybe some regretful question. Why don’t we discuss it first? Why we are not meant to be together? Why he/she is being that cruel? I’m so sorry for that things undone, I’m sorry for made that foolish decision. We should have not doing this. however, you still can do nothing, it is happened and you’ve got to face it. Well, old adage will always right. You won’t miss something until it’s gone.

Recovery time. Time heals. You start to live a new habit, some reason you don’t feel it when you can finally move on, the missing piece already buried in some place deep in your heart. We start to think that it is better to be alone and doesn’t think about anybody than ourselves. After we recover, we just need some time again to think about somebody else and make the past become just memories.

The most important thing from art of losing is the lesson you gain. If you don’t take any lessons from that time, you will just stuck to same person you were. Need time to contemplate, and consideration to make you ready to another commitment with new person. We need to be better person and we want to spend rest of our live with someone we love and someone we deserve. Good man is for a good woman, and so does the opposite. The art of losing may be just a phrase that describes a phase everyone will faced. Losing someone – get some depression – you think you can’t move on whereas you’re actually not – wake up from depression – recovery time – time to gain a lessons and contemplate – time to start a new journey of love life – better person in loving. Grow up, think hundred times when you play with another’s heart, think before you act, never regret every decision you’ve made. Art of loving will be better to be learn than Art of losing.